Is Jesus all you need? In one sense, yes! Various Scriptures encourage us to look to Jesus in life. Hebrews 12:2 implores us to fix our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. Colossians is a Christ exalting book, and Jesus is to be all. Jesus himself said that he was the way, the truth, and the life (John 14:6).
However, I have observed Jesus proclaimed as “all you need” in a different type of way. For example, I once read an article by a single Christian who said she did not need a spouse, and all she needed was Jesus. The undertone of the article made me a bit sad and concerned for this person – they appeared very lonely. They were trying to make Jesus all they needed but I don’t think it was working.
Yes, we need Jesus, but we also need each other!
God said in Genesis that it was not good for Adam to be alone. Really THINK about this. God and Adam had intimate commune in the Garden of Eden – that should have been bliss! How could Adam need more? Yet, he did. God noted that it was not good for Adam to be alone, and he created another human.
[Don’t miss the point here. The point is NOT about single people needing a spouse! I have blogged in defense of singles.]
To offer another example…I’ve read thoughts/articles about loneliness where it was emphasized that Jesus is all you need and there was almost a criticism of feeling lonely. Well, yes, Jesus should be our underlying source of contentment in life…But again, we need other people too.
We can be married but lonely. We can be surrounded by people yet be lonely.
Adam was lonely in the Garden of Eden. God was not enough.
God has made us as relational creatures. The New Testament is filled with “one another” verses about how Christians need to be there for each another.
I think we are living in a time when there is a crisis of genuine friendship. Superficial relationships abound. We are “too busy” or too consumed with technology to slow down and get to know others in a more personal way. Rather than a dozen superficial relationships, we need to make time to cultivate a deeper relationship with just a couple other people. This isn’t about being exclusive or snobby, which can be a problem – but rather about having a couple of relationships with more depth. We all need at least one friend that really “gets us” and with whom we connect.
Due to the nature of our society, I know this can be tough. Believe me, I know. There have been times in my life where I had those close relationships, and times when I did not.
I have reached out in friendship to others at times when I was feeling alone, and they made it clear (indirectly) that they had no time for friendship. They were consumed with other things. For a relationship to develop there must be some reciprocity, and there was no reciprocity. They were either too busy, their friend card was already full, or they were sadly unperceptive to my real need of a friend.
Throughout my life, despite being an introvert, I have often reached out to people that seemed alone, on the sidelines, etc. (Perhaps partly, as an introvert, I am more attracted to a person alone, than by a group or crowd.) – I may not have actually “needed” a friend at that point, but I reached out because I perceived that they needed someone to reach out to them. A couple of these people became good friends, and there was reciprocity. I am glad I risked reaching out, and made space for them in my life.
So this post has ended up about a few different things.
Are you lonely? Try reaching out, tough I know. Maybe you are not lonely, but is there someone you could nonetheless reach out to in friendship? Pray for more awareness. There are likely lonely people in your sphere that you have failed to see.
We should not look for others to fill a need that only Jesus can in our life. We can be too dependent on others, having an unrealistic expectation for a relationship.
However, we do need each other. It is not good to be alone.