For anyone out there who thinks I am arrogant, please know that I am continually humbled.
I recently ran into individuals from 2 small churches where I’d preached as a substitute in September. I remembered them. They had no memory of me. Even when I jogged their memory, they both seemed to “fake” remembering me. Apparently my preaching made a real impact!
I wrote a book, and have a hard time even giving the book away free. Rarely does someone want one. A half box sits in my closet collecting dust. Yet, I plan to write another book and will likely begin in January. I feel compelled to write. Sometimes I wonder why. I spent a year of my life on the first book, and only about 150 copies are out there.
I have a unique robes of the high priest presentation (see my speaking tab above), but rarely have opportunity to do it – only 5 times in 5 years. I’ve offered this presentation to a variety of churches, schools, etc – and I am ignored. I sometimes feel a bad steward of both my gifts and this outfit, but I am not sure what else to do. It sits in my closet collecting dust most of the time.
I recently took a tremendous step of faith!! I spent $2.50 on a 2018 pocket calendar to record my speaking engagements.
Look to the right. It says I have 1,361 followers. That number is deceptive. It includes my facebook and twitter followers (895), most of whom never read my blog! About 50 people are e-mail subscribers. For years, traffic to my blog has been less than 50 hits a day. However, for unknown reasons, my traffic has been averaging 100 hits a day for months now. Certainly better, but after 7 years of blogging, my blog remains obscure.
What’s my point here?
- To encourage others. It can be easy to look at others (their blog or book or ministry) and be envious of them – to think they are a success while you struggle. But there is a good chance they are struggling too!
- Remember that God is at work in the small. Be careful how you define success. Here is past post of mine: Numerical growth=spiritual success? , God is at work in the small, long-range, and hidden.
I was encouraged by this post from the Be Blesstified blog: HOW BEING OVERLOOKED HELPED LEAD TO MY BLOG… If God is allowing you to be excluded or ignored somewhere, maybe He is leading you down a different path.
But being overlooked is still frustrating. The above blogger was not asked to contribute to a newsletter, and he is a professional writer! What in the world? I’ve observed and experienced this too. A church or organization has a member/volunteer with an ideal skill set and passion to fill a need, and they overlook this person entirely. And sometimes the person who is asked bungles it or does it in a slipshod way.
If you are being ignored or failing to “succeed” (in the good sense of that word), it is a possibility that you are mistaken about your gifting. Or maybe you need to use your gift or passion in a different format. I’ll give one example.
I observed someone trying to be a writer, and well, their writing was not very good and was not improving with time either. But then I saw a video of them speaking, and wow, they were dynamic! I think this person needed to focus on speaking, and move on from the writing. Do what you can, not what you can’t! However, it was good they tried. Sometimes we have a hidden or undeveloped gift, and if we don’t try, we will never know it.
On a final note, if you know of someone with a special gift or ministry, be an advocate for them. Pray for them. Encourage them. Recommend their gift or skill to your pastor, leader, or group.
You could be God’s instrument to unleash someone’s spiritual gift to help the church!
Remember, it is not about you and your gift. Our gifts were given to us by God, to help the Body of Christ. We all need each other.
“Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” 1 Peter 4:10
Wow!
Funny enough, some(many) of us who want to read your book “positively powerless” can’t.
I live in West Africa, forex limitation makes it a struggle to buy online with our bank cards.
I’ve read excerpts of your book online but can’t buy it.
So if it’s possible, you may liase with Bible Society Nigeria or other outreach organizations, some buy in bulk from US and distribute here.
What is offered here,(whether it’s a function of excessive supply/demand) are books of word of faith teachers.
sometimes, I share shortlinks of your articles on some whatsapp groups I belong to, because I love reading your blog and love sharing.
Thanks for the encouragement, and ideas! I am so sorry that Word of Faith stuff is so common over there. I am also encouraged that someone from Africa is reading my blog. When I first began, someone from the Philippines read my blog frequently. The internet can make our big world small, and help Christians connect.
Nice message.
Thanks! God bless you.
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Thanks for the reblog James!
I,for one, am blessed by your perseverence. Thank you for sharing your gifts. They are being used to build up the Body in ways you may never know until eternity. Keep on keeping on, friend.
Thanks Melanie, and you too “keep on” with your special blog for those who have suffered loss.
Thank-you for this article. I have been overlooked and passed over in my field of endeavor which is preaching the Word of God and your thoughts have been an encouragement. Interestingly enough, I have heard near the same thing this week so I am wondering what the Lord has. I believe at the least it is my mission to stand tall in the faith of God in my community and so I will.
Thanks for letting me know. I debated to post this for several reasons. But one was that I feared it could come across as “poor me” and that was not my intent. I guess it didn’t, and it has encouraged quite a few people. I pray God will guide you, and open doors, as you serve Him.
I can’t imagine anyone thinking that you’re arrogant, Laura! I’ve always read your writing as filled with grace and humility.
It is discouraging to be overlooked or passed over for ministry opportunities, especially when one has an ideal set of gifts for that opportunity. I can’t say that I’ve had that happen; for me, it’s more likely that I don’t see how my spiritual gifts fit in with ministry opportunities and therefore others don’t see it, either.
I found the story about the would-be writer interesting. (Imagine that.) It is good to try things out of our comfort zones, even if the initial results are a flop. No one gets better at anything without lots of practice and feedback. As the writer was practicing and not getting better, I’m wondering if she/he was receiving constructive criticism that they understood and saw how to apply to their writing. (There’s an art to constructive criticism!) This person probably needs to move on to focus on speaking, but it’s worth mentioning as a possibility if they’re determined to keep focused on writing.
In re-reading the post, I thought about being an advocate for the people with special gifts that may be overlooked. Maybe there’s a unique gift here: advocacy. It involves more than talking to the powers-that-be. It also involves seeing the person as a person, not just a warm body on a pew, and seeing the gifts that the person may not even recognize in themselves. That takes time and effort. You might have that, Laura, in addition to your other gifts. It seems that you take the time to see, cut through the clutter of the trivial everyday things, and are willing to advocate for the overlooked. 🙂
Thank you for this post.
Hi Laura! Thanks for your comments. I don’t think the writer I allude to was getting constructive criticism, and rather quickly jumped to a big project too.
You are right, giving constructive criticism is an art…and it can also be hard to get it, even when you want it. People are so afraid of hurting feelings.
For nursing classes years ago, we had to take a mandatory class in “therapeutic communication” – it is still a required part of nurses training. I think ALL majors should have to take therapeutic communication! I found a Christian book recently called “Caring Criticism” and I want to read it. But I am drifting into a different topic…
That book sounds fascinating!
If it is good, I will plan to blog about it.
In a church I used to go to, often less-than-competent people were given ministry opportunities as a way to encourage them and make them feel like part of the body. Meanwhile, gifted, qualified people were overlooked because they appeared confident and were already a part of things. It backfired, of course, and everyone ended up feeling frustrated and discouraged: The people trying to do things they were not gifted or qualified for, and the people whose gifts were being overlooked. Leadership meant well, but lacked wisdom in this area.
Yeah, I could see how this backfired! Sometimes a discerning leader can see an undeveloped gift in someone, and see that they need an opportunity and guidance to develop it. But that is not what you described!
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I have felt my main call in the ministry is to preach and have had it affirmed multiple times over but it is not what I’m doing right now. It’s been 2.5 years since I filled a pulpit consistently but I’m at a huge church and my pastor (whose an amazing communicator) preaches 45 weeks out of the year.
My family is thriving here at this church but part of me feels like it’s dying on the vine. I hate the thought that my gift can be an idol, which it definitely can be, and trying to find the balance between my desires and whether or not God has called me to use them.
Like your said, our gifts belong to God and He will use them when he wants. I just wish the absence of it didn’t make me so sad and the feeling of being overlooked.
Thanks for commenting and I relate to your struggles. Sometimes it is hard to know if God wants us to sit aside for a time, or whether we should do more to get out there. I’m the type that is willing to knock and crack the door of opportunity open, but not push it open – that is for God to do. Ya know? But there are times to be persistent.
I also relate to feeling like you are withering on the vine. When I get a teaching opportunity, I come alive! Praying God will guide each of us in the new year and enable us to utilize our gifts for Him.
Thank you for your kind words Laura. Merry Christmas!
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