I re-blogged a post on busyness Friday. It got me thinking about another phenomena in recent years, perhaps related to the busyness epidemic. What? An inability to remember a commitment. That is, people who forget to show up or do what they said – unless you give them multiple reminders. We’ve actually had people tell us that if we do not remind them, they will forget. Really?
You are an adult. Put it on your calendar. Write yourself a reminder note.
Are we your personal secretary?
Okay, a bit snarky there, but seriously, think about it. You expect someone to keep track of their own personal schedule, PLUS your schedule too!
We’ve all had one of those absent-minded, quirky friends – but that is not what I am talking about. None of us are perfect, and we may, on occasion space out. I’m talking about something more – a trend – that is not limited to that one scatterbrained friend or rare circumstance.
A friend from a European country (living in the US) recently shared with me her frustration about American people in this regard. Her experience has been that in American culture it is far more common for people to forget without reminders, or to cancel at the last minute for less-than-acceptable reasons. In contrast with her own country, where she is more accustomed to a yes meaning yes – the person shows up without reminder and a cancellation is rare. In other words, she is used to people being reliable.
To give an example…We have a history of not one, but several, individuals proving to be unreliable regarding a service they agreed to perform for us – for pay. One person just plain old forgot! Another had a change in personal circumstances and failed to inform us that she was no longer available. Another person partly fulfilled the service, but failed to complete it as agreed upon. (Shamefully, these were practicing Christians.)
What is going on? In our busyness…do we become scatterbrained?
But this is more than just forgetfulness. It is disrespectful of others.
Common courtesy is not so common anymore. I’ve blogged about that: Common Courtesy and the Christian, and my focus is on respect and courtesy.
This also involves commitment and follow-through.
If you say yes, someone is…
depending on you.
Another Christian blogger wrote about this awhile back: Grace and the Flake. Read it! We should be people whose words are reliable.
Jesus (and James) said our yes should be yes. Is your yes, yes? Or is your yes meaningless?
In closing, here is Psalm 15. Are you someone who keeps an oath even when it hurts, and and does not change your mind?
1 LORD, who may dwell in your sacred tent? Who may live on your holy mountain?
2 The one whose walk is blameless, who does what is righteous, who speaks the truth from their heart;
3 whose tongue utters no slander, who does no wrong to a neighbor, and casts no slur on others;
4 who despises a vile person but honors those who fear the LORD; who keeps an oath even when it hurts, and does not change their mind;
5 who lends money to the poor without interest; who does not accept a bribe against the innocent. Whoever does these things will never be shaken.