This weekend there is a statewide conference for men of our church denomination. We got an e-mail about it from the Bishop, and I appreciated the way it was described. The gathering has “one purpose – to equip men to become someone God can use in their families, churches and communities.”

Yes! Amen! Someone God can use.

I was reminded of a past post I wrote entitled: The alternative to passivity is not leadership. Here is the intro to it:

“Certain churches express concern about men who are passive or not as involved with their families as they should be. No one wants a passive, non-involved, detached spouse – whatever the issue may be – finances, spirituality, etc. This is a legitimate concern. However, I have problems with the odd way that certain churches address it. Their solution is to emphasize men becoming the leaders of their home. But the alternative to passivity is not leadership. The solution is to become more involved and participatory. What we want is a partner. If one spouse is detached in a certain area, they should become more involved but not necessarily the leader…”

Some churches are obsessed with so-called biblical roles, and try to make all men and women fit into the same box for their gender. But the Bible contains diverse men and women who served God in unique ways – ways that were sometimes outside of the box.

As Dr. Sandra Glahn said: “Our truest masculine and feminine selves happen when we are pursuing Jesus.”

Don’t seek leadership. Heed the words of Jesus in Matthew 20:

25 Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. 26 Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, 27 and whoever wants to be first must be your slave— 28 just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”

Don’t seek to be a (so-called) biblical man or biblical woman.

Seeking these things can take your eyes off Jesus.

Pursue Jesus. Seek to follow his example of humble service. Other things will then fall into place. You will become the man or woman God intended you to be. You will become someone God can use in your family, church, and community.